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Break The Anxious-Avoidant Loop And Build A Secure Relationship This Week

Stuck in the same fight on repeat and nothing changes? In a 1:1 call, I'll guide you through the exact steps to interrupt the conflict cycle, communicate without triggering shutdown/defensiveness, and rebuild safety and connection so your relationship starts improving this week, not "someday."

Dr. Sarah Hensley

Relationship Coach, Doctor of Social Psychology

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Does this sound like your relationship?

The Same Fight, On Repeat

You have the same argument over and over. You feel unheard, they feel criticized, and nothing ever gets resolved.

Walking on Eggshells

You're afraid to bring things up because it might trigger a shutdown or an explosion. The silence feels heavy.

Craving Connection

You love each other, but the emotional safety is gone. You want the 'old us' back, but don't know how to get there.

Dr. Sarah Hensley

Dr. Sarah Hensley

Relationship Coach, Doctor of Social Psychology

Why traditional advice fails

Most couples wait 6 years before seeking help, and then spend months in talk therapy venting about the past.

I don't do "venting sessions."

As a Doctor of Social Psychology, I use attachment theory to identify the root mechanics of your dynamic instantly. We don't need to spend years talking. We need to change the way you relate, right now.

Ph.D. Social Psychology
220K+ Community

Here is what happens in a 1:1 call

This isn't just "advice." It is a strategic intervention to save your relationship.

Step 01

Identify The Cycle

We will map out exactly why you trigger each other and unmask the 'Anxious-Avoidant' dance playing out.

Step 02

Interrupt The Conflict

I'll give you the specific scripts and tools to stop a fight in it's tracks before it spirals into silence or shouting.

Step 03

Rebuild Safety

Learn how to communicate your needs in a way that actually makes your partner want to lean in, not run away.

Testimonials

★★★★★

Review request from episode 32 for group spot

"I was immediately drawn to your content because it resonated so deeply with my own personal experience. I continue to follow you and listen to your podcasts, and I truly see you as an incredible wealth of knowledge. Today's episode on the female dismissive avoidant was especially impactful for me. I've always identified as dismissive avoidant, yet so much of the conversation centers on men, so hearing this perspective felt incredibly validating and reassuring. I've felt hesitant about joining a group because I worry I might be older than most participants, having been in a 30-year marriage, and I sometimes wonder if I would fit in. Still, I feel drawn to your groups and want to be brave enough to try because your work makes me feel deeply understood in a way no other coach or therapist I follow has. I currently do my own work with an IFS counselor, which I value greatly, but the clarity and depth you bring to understanding avoidant attachment has helped me see myself and my patterns in an entirely new way. This is truly your niche, and the work you are doing is meaningful, validating, and transformative. Thank you for the care, insight, and dedication you put into everything you offer."

★★★★★

A few comments about Coach Elizabeth

"It was pure desperation that I landed me at “The Love Doc” website. Impressed with information shared on Facebook by Dr. Sarah Hensley I was motivated to investigate the resources she was mentioning. Being in a long term marriage of 52 years but experiencing significant discord, and not aware of something called attachment styles, I was now irretrievably down a rabbit hole that I would not exit soon. I instinctively knew one on one, face to face coaching was what I needed. Immediately I was drawn to the kind face and welcoming smile of relationship coach, Elizabeth Pomeroy. I booked a 55 minute session with her, provided a letter of introduction prior to the session, but had no idea what to expect. I only knew I needed help, professional help. Prior to my first session, I completed the “Achieving You Secure Attachment” program at TheLovDoc.com so I would have some basis for discussion in that first session. Still, I wondered what kind of “therapy” would this be? Previous attempts working with a therapist have been less than rewarding for me. To my surprise there was no therapy, only a gentle compassionate listener who confirmed my anxious attachment (and my wife’s dismissive avoidant style). Coach Elizabeth reassured me acknowledging through her empathetic words of explanation that my emotions, feelings, and pain were real and were accurate. By the end of that session, I wanted to understand more, much more. Coach Elizabeth explained that together we could put the pieces together to paint my picture so I could learn about the dynamics in my marriage. I discovered I was going to learn skills from her to navigate my marriage and survive it one way or another. And we would figure that out together. That was a hopefulness I did not have when I started my journey with Coach Elizabeth. Immediately I realized I was working with a qualified professional who could feel and understand what I was going through in my marriage and offer real solutions. That instantly signaled to me this would not be an experience like previous traditional therapy I had. Coach Elizabeth is calm yet very confident when she engages. She listens to feel and understand accurately. She does not sugar coat, saying what needs to be said but delivers in a way that is easy to accept. After unpacking the history and dynamics of my long term marriage she simply said, “you are in a very toxic relationship.” This was not therapy, just plain professional honesty which set the course for the first practical solutions for my situation. I am working through that with Coach Elizabeth and her expert guidance. I believe I am making the correct decisions, and she is suggesting the map to follow to complete my journey. I’ve scheduled my fifth session with Coach Elizabeth. I will meet with her until I no longer need her guidance. Her professional assistance in this very personal matter has provided me a path to resolution that will be the best possible outcome. Additionally, and unexpectedly, my personal interaction with Coach Elizabeth has afforded me a personal growth experience I did not realize would occur. I have truly felt cared for by her, not just a slot in her schedule. I refer to her as my “relationship angel.” Because with each session her new insights, suggestions, genuine and honest feedback has given me the confidence to manage my situation and make the best possible decisions for myself. Much gratitude and many thanks Coach Elizabeth for your support. Jim Sarbacker"

★★★★★

Happy, Healthy & Whole!

"Gaining insight, increasing my capacity, trusting in myself, understanding my triggers, being attracted to the green flags, and STAYING when it gets real! So many areas that needed my increased attention and effort. It has not been easy but Elizabeth has been incredibly supportive, effective, dedicated and knowledgeable throughout the process! She has also given me tangible action steps and communication strategies along the way to help me move towards healthy, secure attachment. So grateful for all the work and I'm finally feeling like myself again! Happy, healthy and whole"

★★★★★

Life Changing!

"My partner and I started working with Elizabeth after completing Dr.Hensley's group. We really wanted to make progress quickly - and were at a place in our lives, and at a time when we really needed clarity, safety, and tools that actually worked in real life—not just theory. What sets the program, and specifically Elizabeth apart is how deeply she understands attachment patterns and how they show up in everyday relationships. She doesn’t just explain attachment—she helps you feel it, notice it in your body, and change it in real time. Her guidance is compassionate but not fluffy, insightful without being overwhelming, and always grounded in what’s actually happening in your life. I’ve learned how to recognize my patterns, regulate my nervous system, communicate more clearly, and repair instead of spiral. The shifts haven’t just been intellectual—they’ve been lived. My relationship feels safer, steadier, and more honest because of the work we’ve done. If you’re tired of repeating the same emotional cycles and want real, sustainable change, Elizabeth is someone who truly knows how to guide you there—with depth, skill, and a lot of heart."

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